Emotional intelligence can be described as the ability to proactively manage your emotions and to appropriately respond to the emotions of others. Peter Scazzero,writes in his book, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality that emotional and spiritual maturity go hand in hand. In order to be emotionally healthy we must be in touch with our own emotions. For those of us in leadership there are often five roadblocks that challenge our emotional maturity. I would agree with those who have written in the book "Resilient Ministry". They are as follows:
1. The intense desire to people please. People pleasing is the willingness to deny one's own feelings, priorities,values or convictions in order to try to make others happy.
2. The problem of emotional-faking. This is when we deny our emotions to protect our persona so we have a tendency to fake it do we look more spiritual.
3. The problem of a lack of reflection. We bury our emotions in our busyness, instead of slowing down to reflect as to our true feelings.
4. The problem of conflict avoidance. None of us like conflict but we must recognize that burying our head in the sand doesn't make it go away.
5. The challenges of listening and expressing empathy. Emotionally mature people take the time to listen and empathize so less misunderstanding takes place.
Do any of these roadblocks resonate in your life? This is no time for a detour!
Friday, April 10, 2015
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